Finding Your Parent Inspiration
Parenting seems to be changing all the time; and not just in the current sense, but through all the ages. I'm convinced every generation (both parent & child) are on the edge of different techniques & experiences. You would think by now we'd have run out of things to change!
The current Self Education that is available to us is amazing! Not all theories I come across will be relatable, but when I find a parenting practice that resonates I am all ready to wrap those good intentions around myself. The only thing is, for me, the logical message doesn't always hold through my fatigue, stress or irritation.
The lessons I am able to recall are the ones I learned from watching other parents handle a situation better than I would. I'm finding my intentions from logically reading an article just don't translate into the world of high tensions and screaming antics the way that tangible experiences do.
However I am able to draw on past experiences I was a part of:
- I can remember a calm father correcting a hard moment between siblings even though the whole thing happened behind me in line at the supermarket.
- I can think of a friends parenting strategy that I've seen a dozen times and let my kids too, learn for themselves, what wet shoes feel like on the walk home.
- And as I've seen my partner illustrate, I can rally the enthusiasm to make a change in plans for the third time, still seem like a good idea to a preschooler ; which actually happened in this post.
The difference seems to be presence of mind; my whole being was engaged in those moments and while some of them weren't from my own children, I was present enough to absorb a lesson.
Parents and kids are always evolving and it feels good to let our friends and peers teach us by example a different way. And in turn, we may unknowingly be showing someone else an easier method -- because raising kids is hard and we all need inspiration at times. Why not let it be the people in our own community.
So I am wondering if it isn't time to let our friends be the source of insight when coming up with a different approach. I think it would be wonderful if we all took a minute every once in a while and thanked these people for demonstrating a good parenting moment.
Who's with me!!
|Photo by Annacaitlinphotography|
I'd love to hear about how an unscripted moment stuck with you. Or perhaps the written word holds more weight. Let me know in the comments!
Until next time,